Self Acceptance

Take a breath.

Lately I've been combating my own personal issues within myself and others. I don't understand my Filipino culture where everyone kind of feels the need to impress the people around them. Changing habits to accommodate someone else's insecurities, or even holding yourself back from things that make you happy as a person because other people feel inferior to your happiness.

Since when did everyone's approval mean you are suddenly more happy or successful. You will never be truly happy with yourself or have deep success if you rely on everyone else's opinions.

What's the point of buying that red dress that everyone likes when you love the blue one? You are going to wear that dress the whole party. You'll be smiling at pictures in that dress, dancing around in that dress, and mingling with others in that dress. They will all compliment it and say that you had such great taste and that they think you look so beautiful. You also would be loving all that attention. It's up to you on how you accept others' opinion. You could've also shown up in that blue dress you like so much. Smiling at pictures, dancing, and talking with others. Maybe you'll receive a whole bunch of compliments on how you look that night, or maybe you won't. When you see those pictures of you in that blue dress, you'll know you chose that for yourself. Not because others decided it was the better choice for you. When you remember dancing the night away in your blue dress, you'll know that you were so comfortable moving around in the dress that you chose. While you spoke with others that night, whether they commented negatively or positively about that dress you chose, you will know that they know that they can't change your mind on how you feel about what you choose. There will also be a new found respect for you, from them. You will also find stability and certainty in your decisions knowing that if you were the one that decided, no matter what they say, you will enjoy yourself. People will stop trying to trample you over because they just can't. You and your blue dress wins!

I am encouraging you all to be your own. Pick and chose what you like because you like it! Ditch the pounds because you want to, not because people make you feel uncomfortable or because those people on TV are thin. People who also have their hearts and mind in the right place will become attracted to you. That's why they say, "birds of the same feathers flock together." Next thing you know, you'll be surrounded with friends who are accepting of who you choose to be. You'll be more comfortable with yourself and most of all have self-respect.

At night time when you close your eyes, right before you fall asleep, realize that you are by yourself. You are the only one who is gonna make this work. You get to decide how you feel. Your heart pump its own blood. Finally, be glad! Once you realize what a great gift it is to know that only you can change things about yourself, you will be unbreakable.

I love you!
-m